Touring Update:
San Francisco Bay Area/Oakland, CA ~ February - roughly March 31st
Austin, TX ~ 2-3 weeks in April - accepting more pre-bookings to finalize dates
Denver/Boulder, CO ~ Coming soon… possibly a quick stop through in April/May, likely staying for 1-2 months this summer
Am I coming to your city soon?
Reach out when you have a date in mind! I often tailor my trip dates to pre-bookings.
How To Be The Perfect Client to a Tantrika
I’ve wanted to write this blog post for a long time because people often don’t know what the best practices are on how to contact and maintain a wonderful relationship with a provider. In this post, I am going to be speaking in a lot of generalizations so, of course, be aware that other providers may be different in their preferences and that different locations may warrant different ways of communication.
Cultivate Your Professional Relationship
First, it is so important to not only pick a woman who is safe but also a good match for you.I do particularly love this post from Reddit that I’ll link below. It goes into both how to be more sure a provider is real and safe, what are normal practices to expect, and how to best contact someone. https://www.reddit.com/r/SexWorkers/comments/hzivvb/how_to_find_a_safe_provider/
So as to not be repetitive, I’ll focus on the points I find most important.
1. Be careful out there.
Make sure to do research on anyone you are thinking about contacting. See if they have been around a while, have ads on reputable websites, have their own website and social media presence (unless you prefer an old-school young person like me who finds the idea of being on social media soul-sucking), and that their pictures are their own.
2. Write a great inquiry. Whether you are emailing or texting a provider, or, better yet, filling out a contact form on their website- more information is better than less. No need to write a novel but a small couple sentence paragraph per open-ended question is best.
3. A note on Tantrikas in particular:
It’s not a superficial experience to come see a Tantrika, or at least it doesn’t have to be. A good Tantrika will meet you where you are on the level you can connect, both in general and in that moment, without judgment. When reaching out to a Tantrika, be honest and be deep. If you are feeling lonely because you are a few months out of a breakup, or it’s just been too long since you’ve had loving touch, or you just feel too busy to give the time and energy to a proper emotionally-invested relationship - be honest about all of that. Tantrikas generally come in two categories according to own experience; healing-only based providers and healing and/or pleasure based providers.If you are looking for a healing-only based experience, be very clear about that.
Ask yourself these questions:
Am I coming here to heal or learn something or am I coming here to have fun or both?
Would I feel disappointed if I left wanting more?
Would I feel uncomfortable if she is very confident about providing pleasure? Would I feel disappointed if I just had fun and didn’t feel something deeper?
4. Be honest and communicative in the session.
If something feels really good, say that. Or make a good sound.
If you feel stuck, or in your head, or frozen, or nervous, or whatever, say that too. Or say you’re not sure but you want to be... having more fun, more dropped into your body, digging deeper...
A good and experienced provider will have some intuition on this stuff, but speak up!
She wants to know what’s going on for you, nothing feeds the energy of the session more than honesty. Even if it’s crunchy at first, all truth feeds intimacy.
5. Communication after the session
Feel free to share your reflections after the session, it can help the provider know what most impacted you to calibrate for any future sessions.
You can always request another session, integration call, or planning call for another session as well if there are more things you’re interested in asking about or exploring.
Some amount of sharing about your life and staying in communication is appropriate between sessions, though if you desire a more sustained connection, she may offer you some kind of connection texting package.
The main things to remember: Be kind. Be direct (though not explicit). Be real.
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